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Τετάρτη 24 Οκτωβρίου 2012

Soulmate or Checkmate? How Healthy is YOUR soul connection?

Did you know, that "twin flames" are one of the more rare soul connections out there in the spiritual realm? There would be no problem with this, except, that we want this soul connection so badly, that we all begin to believe we've met "THE ONE", or what spiritualists call our "twin flame".
In over ten years as a spiritualist, I've sensed that clients have met their "twin flames" less times than I can count on both hands and feet. This is something that I feel I need to share, not to discourage you, but to enlighten you to the truth about soulmates. Just because you might be feeling all mushy-gushy inside does not necessarily mean you have something that will ultimately last! Here are the types of soul connections I've seen in my experience as a spiritualist:
Karmic Connection: This is energetically the lowest frequency of energy that can be shared between two people. The only reason for this connection is for learning purposes, otherwise known as "karma". The karma could be present between the two people based upon a past life connection wherein one or both partners did not learn a vital spiritual lesson, and perhaps they are meant to meet again in this current lifetime in order to have yet another chance to learn this lesson. However, once the lesson(s) is learned, the emotions normally die out, and the relationship ends. Yes, they are meant to be together, but only for a time.
What normally happens in this type of soulmate relationship, you ask? Well, I've seen that it starts out hot and heavy. The person claims undying love for you in less than a year, treats you like the princess or king you are, and initially it's the most beautiful thing you've ever experienced. You swear on everything that's holy that he or she is IT for you, is THE ONE, is the final slice of bread that will keep your heart full. And then suddenly, for no reason known, this person gets the hell out of dodge! They pull the Houdini maneuver and you never hear from them again (or if you do, it's only for them to ask for their cds, clothes and valuables). Beware! If you reach out to ask them why more than once they will bare teeth at you. The common response I see from the karmic connection partners, when confronted about why they ran off for no reason, is, "You NEED to let me go! Don't you get the hint? I've not called and I've not said anything because it's OVER. Please stop contacting me", or the other response is nothing but silence. You never hear from them again or you hear from them only through your mutual friends.
There is no reason why they ran, and if you try to demand a response for the sake of closure, they only will give the following reason(s):
1) "I didn't FEEL it any more for you; I don't know why.";
2) We wanted different things in life; or
3) I wasn't ready for a commitment.
When in essence, number one is often true. They do subconsciously stop feeling what you both thought was undying love, because IT WAS NOT LOVE TO BEGIN with. It was merely a "karmic" connection. Number two is often true as well, but the only difference in what you want is that he or she no longer wants YOU. Number three, I find, is far removed from the truth. In karmic connections, I see this excuse being used very often, but then the next thing you know, you'll see the person whose alleged undying "love" for you has been replaced almost immediately with someone even LESS suited for them than you. Suddenly you're hearing that Casanova is going to marry her! And then before you know it, you hear about their lovely wedding in Vegas and how he or she is happier than they've ever been.
My advice: don't wait on closure. There is no deeply embedded psychological reason for this person to do what they did to you, other than the fact that the relationship was only meant for learning purposes, and was not meant to last after this. Why the undying love, you ask? Well, how else would you have been able to stay with him or her if you didn't FEEL some reason to do so? You felt infatuation that was the result of karma, not love. Let the person go. He or she won't be back. I may be the only psychic brave enough to tell you this, but in more times than not, it's true.

Kindred Spirit Connection:  This type of soul connection, in my experience, has been THE most wonderfully successful type of soulmate one can have. The reason is that the love is based upon FRIENDSHIP and respect. You won't find any burning flames of love in the initial stages of this relationship, but what you will find it a slowly developing relationship that may take months or years to establish, but then lasts the rest of your life!! It doesn't normally feel all mushy-gushy, like the other types if soulmate connection, and it feels more like being in love with your best friend: comfortable and happy!
You're never left with that empty feeling in your tummy when he/she doesn't call, because you always KNOW where this person is and when he or she will call. This connection is based upon trust and friendship, and then turns into more. Normally, the kindred spirit couple have experienced many lifetimes together, often times not as romantic partners, but as friends. My advice to anyone in this type of soul connection relationship, is to be patient and be grateful for this person in your life. Who cares if you don't feel mushy-gushy? That stuff is for the movies. What we're REALLY meant to feel is based upon respect and stability.
I see this type of soulmate relationship enter into a client's live often when a person has been in love with the WRONG soul connection and when it didn't work out, but then the kindred spirit connection comes along AFTER the wrong soul connection ended in their lives. What occurs, normally, is that the person will compare the feelings in the kindred spirit connection to the stronger, but more devastating feelings they felt for the twin flame or karmic connection who ran from them and broke their hearts. My advice to you is this: No, you won't feel strong, burning flames of fury and passion for your kindred soulmate, or at least not immediately. Please let your karmic connection go. Move on from them so that you can experience the more stable and grounding love your kindred spirit has to offer you. Stop comparing this type of soulmate connection to your twin flame or karmic soulmate who will never be with you. Stop calling too many psychics. Let go. Let Love. You'll be happier with the kindred spirit connection. No, you haven't "settled". You just stepped out of the movies and into reality. Your heart will thank you, and when you're finally healed, you'll feel happier with your kindred spirit connection.

The Mirror Soul Connection  A little higher in the frequency of energy than the kindred spirit connection, this soulmate connection is powerful, loving, difficult, but lasts for many years, if not forever. However, I do see a lot of "coming and going" in this soulmate connection, as opposed to the more consistent types of soulmate connections shown above. When you meet a mirror soulmate, you will be VERY confused about why the person acts the way they do! Often times, you guys will call me to say, "This person acts immensely interested and attracted to me, but then also acts like sometimes he cannot even stand to look at me. Sometimes he won't even look me in the eye! Why the push/pull or love/hate?"
Here is why: imagine waking up to look at yourself in the mirror every single morning. The reason I call this connection the "mirror" soul connection, is because the person will mirror you or you will mirror them. This is all well and good IF your mirror soulmate has learned most of his/her spiritual lessons and IF he/she has faced his/her karma. However, if there are things mirrored to them from you that perhaps they are not ready to face, which is more often the case than not, the result will be that they RUN from you initially. Granted, they do often run BACK to you a good bit of the time, but they always run off into their corner to hide from you again, and again and again.
It's akin to looking into a mirror every single time they see you. They will see things in you that remind them of themselves years ago or right now. You could also be a projection of themselves in the future, and they are looking to you for support to become who they wish to be! The lesson in this is for them to feel a kinship with you that helps them get to know themselves better. It helps them face the issues they truly need to face in this lifetime. The problem in this VERY COMMON type of soulmate, is that many of us aren't ready to face all of our issues right away. Therefore, being around our mirror soulmates makes us want to hide from them. If someone were walking around holding a mirror to your face of your own issues, and say you worked with them, lived with them, or saw them daily or weekly, how would you respond?
We as mirror soulmates are not aware that we're holding a mirror spiritually to our partners-- it's a very subconscious energetic effect. However, the person on the other end of this soul connection FEELS this. Asking them why they run does not often get you any answers, however, because they don't CONSCIOUSLY KNOW why they're running. They only will feel this inexplicable need to RUN LIKE HELL from you!
The good news is that eventually, the do face up to their lessons mirrored by you, and they do eventually step up. My advice to anyone in this type of soul connection it to step back, let your loved one learn at his or her own pace, and be patient! These relationships do normally work out, over time.
No matter how often they run from you, I do (more times than not) see that they always run back. It may take a few days, a few weeks, or a few years, but they do come back, and often times, with their tail between their legs.
The Twinflame Connection: This is THE most OBSOLETE form of soul connection out there. I feel like I am outting all the other spiritualists on keen by saying this, not because I agree or disagree with them, but I am the person many clients come to after they've called almost everyone on keen and have been told the same thing: "He's your TWIN FLAME! He loves you! He'll be back! Wait!" Then finally, one day when the client is desperate for truth, lonely, broken hearted and broken in the bank account as well, I get the 2am call about the alleged twinflame. "Over 100 psychics on keen have all said he is my twinflame and that he will be back! I know it's been five years since we've talked, but how could you be right? Everyone else says the opposite-- they all say he will be back!"
What I've seen about twin flames in my experience as a reader, is this: in close to 15,000 calls on keen, do you know how many of you have met your twinflames? TEN. Ten of you have met your twinflames. Yes, I wrote it down. I wanted to remember it because it helps me to know more about the types of soulmates out there. I've only met TEN CLIENTS on keen who have met their soulmates. What is even more frightening is this: ONLY FIVE OF YOU ENDED UP WITH YOUR TWINFLAME!
The point for my post about soulmates, is this: how healthy is your soul connection? This isn't about what your advisors say will happen in the future, but more importantly, what are you doing in the HERE AND NOW? What might be equally important to our heart is LOGIC. It feels good in the moment to meet a twin flame, but the sad reality boils down to the fact that in most cases, they break our hearts. I implore all of you out there who is waiting on a twin flame, search within yourself and ask, "Is this person really here for me?", "Am I REALLY in a real and practical relationship with this person?", "Is this really healthy?". I assure you that more times than not, the answer to these questions will be "no". Despite what your heart is telling you, the more important lesson, might be to let your twin flame go...

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Understanding Karmic Relationships and Soul Mates in Today’s High Tech World

By Hillary Raimo
Copyright© 2010 All Rights Reserved
Have you ever had a partner in your life that you felt an unbelievable connection with? The chemistry was intense, passionate and hard to explain? It is an interesting phenomenon, that over takes our rational senses. Explaining it is very difficult, but feeling it is overwhelming and undeniable.
In today’s world with internet, email, instant messaging, text messaging and every other possible way of staying “connected” with others, what is very clearly missing, is the actual connecting. Email has become nothing more than small mini-statements to each other. A platform for telling someone our thoughts at that moment without being interrupted. Then we hit send, and off it goes into the void of internet space. Then we sit patiently, or not so patiently at times, waiting for our reply, another carefully calculated mini-statement of sorts.
There are countless online dating services offering guaranteed match making, that suggest you will find your soul mate according to their software compatibility programs, highly capable of matching your distinct personality traits with someone according to a computers stats of what ‘fits’. We know more about someone’s profile, before we even make eye contact.
Then, we very carefully scan uploaded photos, taking in the cameras version of truth. We ‘read’ them by what the image holds and decide yes or no. Shopping for love has become a catalog affair.
What has happened to connection? Nowadays we hear that word and assume it involves some form of technology. We are becoming more and more dis-connected to others as we become more and more able to reach them. Gone are the days of long handwritten love letters sent from a far. Gone is the trusting of instinct and acting on whim and spontaneity. Often what that brings now, is a restraining order and accusations of being obsessed.
Where do we draw the line in love? How can one find their soul mate, if they can’t connect authentically, allowing their emotions, passions and actions to come from a place of mystery, magic and
deep connection. It is much harder now to feel a deep soul love than ever before, because of the way our society is evolving. Ever new and amazing products are released all the time, giving us faster, better, more effective forms of communication. We can Goggle someone’s name and find out all about them, without a single conversation.
In my work, I work with people and trying to understand deeper aspects of self. Including love and karmic relationships. What does karmic mean? It means that we have a contract of sorts, with someone on a soul level. We have agreed, on other levels of existence, that we will help them realize a certain level of learning; we could not otherwise do without them. How does that differ from soul mates? Soul mates are twin souls. Each manifested as the opposite energy of the other. This usually takes the form of male, and female. All of us have an aspect of male and female within us. Taking the form of doing, and being, in its most simplistic form. We relate to one aspect more than the other usually, and so one of the greater lessons to learn, is how to balance that within ourselves.
All of us have an opposite manifested energy ‘out there’ in the physical plane. Soul mates are naturally drawn to each other. They seek each other out their whole lives to merge. As we seek enlightenment, always heading towards a higher sense of self, soul mates seek each other out with the same intensity. Usually this is unconsciously done.
What happens when that is fulfilled? Life. Among many other unexplainable and enlightened experiences. When twin souls, or Soul mates, find each other in the physical, there is an attraction unlike ever felt before. A mutual attraction. To our ego’s, the attraction may make absolutely no rational sense, all the excuses in the world, can do nothing to ward off the attraction of Soul mates. At first it will be felt on a very intimate physical level. But it goes way beyond just sexual.
Often times, Soul mates will dream about each other, and communicate on other levels. For example, you will think about them, and they instantly call you. Your thought energy transfers simultaneously when you are in close proximity with each other. You will sense it as a knowing, it is not a mental process. In fact, mental processes often come from our ego, and fear based energies will often try to destroy the feeling, because it is so unexplainable, mysterious, and unlike what we are used to feeling. So we consciously try to shut it down.
Soul mates, however, can try all they want. Move on in their lives, marry other people even, but the connection will always remain, call, and try to seek itelf out. We may spend our whole lives trying to deny what we feel, but life, creation seeks its greatest expression, and love is no different. The love of soul mates is an incredible gift.
And becoming ever rarer, is the merging of soul mates, as we evolve into a dis-connected species looking for love on a computer screens. Nothing replaces the human touch. Looking into someone’s eyes feeling butterflies in your stomach. Mind, body and spirit health includes intimate human contact, research and studies support the effects on new born children. The same goes for adults. No amount of interactive software, will ever replace the experience of intimate interaction between two people.
If you think about the very act of conception, that one microscopic sperm that made it to the egg, out of thousands of others who didn’t, how special, and rare. How divinely perfect, and the life that was then created. It is the same with soul mates when they make contact in the physical realm. You will just know when it is that person. Nothing in life can duplicate that feeling. Like those sperm, we all race through life trying to merge with creation itself. Unifying ourselves on levels unimaginable.
So when you find your soul mate, you will know. There will be chemistry unlike any other. Passion in every intimate embrace. Physical will merge with spiritual. As one.
Hillary Raimo is an author, and life/soul coach, of matters for mind body and spirit. Host of The Hillary Raimo Show on achieveradio.com worldwide internet radio. For more information about Hillary, to schedule a session with her, visit www.hillaryraimo.com
Copyright© 2010 Hillary Raimo All Rights Reserved

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101 Facts You Never Knew About Soul Mates


􀆆 FACT #1
You have more than one soul mate, contrary to what most
people have been brought up to believe.
􀆆 FACT #2
You do not need your soul mate to
make you happy.
􀆆 FACT #3
You have to learn how to make yourself
happy first before you can allow
someone else to love you.
􀆆 FACT #4
Soul mates come into our lives to
achieve balance.
􀆆 FACT #5
Soul mates come into our lives to help us find our inner self.
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􀆆 FACT #6
Soul mates do not discriminate between sexes, nationalities
or religious or political persuasions.
􀆆 FACT #7
Your soul mate can even be that furry mate you have lying
beside your feet.
􀆆 FACT #8
That’s because the soul mate love comes in all shapes,
forms and sizes.
􀆆 FACT #9
The soul mate relationship does not
focus on physical attributes. It
doesn’t matter what they look like
on the outside; it’s what’s inside
that really matters for a successful
soul mate union.
􀆆 FACT #10
The physical being is but a shell and the real soul mate love
lies within this shell. Your physical self is your DNA; it’s
what your mother and father bestowed on you when you
were born. However, it has nothing to do with your spiritual
self and that’s where you will find your soul mate.
􀆆 FACT #11
When we meet our soul mate for the first time, we will get
an immediate instantaneous attraction to him/her.
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􀆆 FACT #12
It is a spiritual attraction where one spirit connects to the
other.
􀆆 FACT #13
By tuning into your inner self, you will instantly recognize
your soul mate.
􀆆 FACT #14
Soul mates come into our
lives for distinct reasons.
􀆆 FACT #15
Soul mates come into our
lives to compliment us.
􀆆 FACT #16
Soul mates come into our lives to complete us.
􀆆 FACT #17
There are many kinds of soul mates and each one can be
classified into three distinct categories.
􀆆 FACT #18
The three different categories are karmic, companion and
twin soul.
􀆆 FACT #19
There is even a fourth group which are called group souls.
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􀆆 FACT #20
The karmic soul mate comes into your life to help you solve
a problem or for you to help them solve a problem.
􀆆 FACT #21
The karmic soul mate can be a co-worker, close friend or
even a family member.
􀆆 FACT #22
The karmic soul mate can also be a special pet with which
there is a spiritual bond.
􀆆 FACT #23
The karmic soul mate is one of the
most common of all soul mate
relationships and you can have
many in your lifetime.
􀆆 FACT #24
There are usually no sexual
relations involving the two karmic soul mate partners.
􀆆 FACT #25
The companion soul mate is someone who comes into your
life for intimacy and/or childbearing.
􀆆 FACT #26
The companion soul mate is someone with whom you
eventually marry in some cases and in others create a
lifelong spiritual bond.
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􀆆 FACT #27
However, the companion soul mate is not destined to be in
your life forever, thus constitutes the increase of divorces.
􀆆 FACT #28
The companion soul mate is brought into your life for a
reason and one of them is for self-growth.
􀆆 FACT #29
As opposed to the karmic and twin
soul relationship, the companion soul
mate relationship requires more work
from both partners to sustain a
healthy, loving atmosphere.
􀆆 FACT #30
Even if you and your companion soul
mate part, he/she will never be gone completely from your
life.
􀆆 FACT #31
The third category of soul mates, the twin souls, is the most
sought after form of soul mate.
􀆆 FACT #32
The twin soul also comes into your life for a distinct reason.
􀆆 FACT #33
You will recognize your twin soul as if you’d known him/her
all your life.
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􀆆 FACT #34
The twin soul is your divine counterpart.
􀆆 FACT #35
Your twin soul’s spirit mirrors your spirit, recognizes it and
bonds.
􀆆 FACT #36
No one can separate you from your
twin soul.
􀆆 FACT #37
However, if the timing isn’t right, the twin soul will leave,
only to join you again at a later lifetime. But the bond never
goes away.
􀆆 FACT #38
The most common factor of the twin soul union not
materializing is the fact that one or both parties are already
in committed relationships.
􀆆 FACT #39
However, if the timing is right and both parties are strong,
the twin soul relationship can happen.
􀆆 FACT #40
No matter which “kind” of soul mate comes into your life,
they are all there for reasons and are no more or less
important than the others for they all help us find our higher
selves.
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􀆆 FACT #41
We are all on missions in life and it is up to us to find that
mission. Our soul mates help us achieve that.
􀆆 FACT #42
Sometimes our soul mate comes into our lives because we
have a need to resolve.
􀆆 FACT #43
However, in order for us to find our soul mate, we have to
be complete within ourselves. That’s not saying that we
don’t have needs or problems. It’s
saying that we know what we want
out of life and are striving towards
that goal. Our soul mates help us
with detours along the way.
􀆆 FACT #44
A soul mate is someone who helps
you grow spiritually to achieve
balance in your life.
􀆆 FACT #45
You know you have met your soul mate because you
connect on a very different level than anyone you have ever
met before.
􀆆 FACT #46
You can’t force the soul mate union. It’s either there or it
isn’t.
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􀆆 FACT #47
If you do try to force it, it messes up your whole spiritual
path towards finding your inner self and, thus, problems
within the relationship surface.
􀆆 FACT #48
If you are desperate to find your soul mate, it will not
happen.
􀆆 FACT #49
If you are looking for your soul mate to
fulfill your needs, it will not happen.
􀆆 FACT #50
There is no “the one” out there. You
have many soul mates and each one
serves a purpose for coming into your
life.
􀆆 FACT #51
You can find your soul mate online; however, be very careful
with this approach.
􀆆 FACT #52
The reason? The only true way you can recognize your soul
mate is through physical contact.
􀆆 FACT #53
Your soul mate encourages you in whatever projects or
undertakings you are involved in.
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􀆆 FACT #54
Your soul mate accepts you for who you are.
􀆆 FACT #55
Your soul mate nurtures you when you are down and praises
you when you succeed.
􀆆 FACT #56
Your soul mate is your best friend.
􀆆 FACT #57
Your soul mate and you have
conversations that last through the
night. You both listen to what the
other has to say and do not criticize.
􀆆 FACT #58
You must have positive karma within your relationship for
the soul mate relationship to succeed.
􀆆 FACT #59
If you have not rid yourself of bad karma, the relationship
will not succeed.
􀆆 FACT #60
You must respect one another.
􀆆 FACT #61
Trust is one of the most important traits in a successful soul
mate union.
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􀆆 FACT #62
If you do not have trust, you have nothing, and it’s best to
move on.
􀆆 FACT #63
Your soul mate gives you unconditional love.
􀆆 FACT #64
An estimated 53% of all people will have
one or more affairs in their lifetime.
􀆆 FACT #65
One of the reasons is that one of their
other soul mates has come into their life
for a reason.
􀆆 FACT #66
The reason has to be established in order to learn from it.
􀆆 FACT #67
Life is one big learning lesson.
􀆆 FACT #68
Of almost 127 million Americans age 40 or older, more than
a third is unattached.
􀆆 FACT #69
Of these 127 million Americans, some prefer living alone to
finding their soul mate.
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􀆆 FACT #70
These people are in what you would call the “regrouping
stage.”
􀆆 FACT #71
It’s perfectly normal to be in the regrouping stage because it
is at this time that you find your inner self and who you
really are at this point in life.
􀆆 FACT #72
After the regrouping stage, you are
ready to find your soul mate.
􀆆 FACT #73
There are twenty-five million single
women in the world today.
􀆆 FACT #74
Most quote careers as the number one reason they are
single. The second reason is that they have given up on
finding love.
􀆆 FACT #75
The first online personal ad appeared in 1995.
􀆆 FACT #76
Slightly more than one to two teenagers (12%) are currently
in a relationship with someone they have been dating for
more than a year, according to a survey of 4,600 teens
(ages 12 – 17) conducted by the New York City-based
market research firm Mediamark Research, Inc.
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􀆆 FACT #77
According to TopDatingTips.com Readers Poll, more than
half of those who responded date simultaneously.
􀆆 FACT #78
According to the same poll, 71% believe in love at first
sight.
􀆆 FACT #79
Personality ranked #1 in the same poll.
􀆆 FACT #80
Unfaithfulness was the #1 reason
the relationship ended.
􀆆 FACT #81
According to SearchYourLove.com, most single men and
women are interested in finding someone special and
broadening their resources to make it happen.
􀆆 FACT #82
67% of U.S. single men and 86% single women find that
someone who smiles a lot is a bigger turn-on over someone
who is physically attractive, but has no personality.
􀆆 FACT #83
According to a 2003 study by the AARP, 35 % of middleaged
American women said they preferred to date younger
men. According to the U.S. Census, 12 % of marriages are
between older women and younger men.
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􀆆 FACT #84
It has been proven statistically that being in a relationship is
healthier than being single.
􀆆 FACT #85
Men who live alone are at an increased risk of dying from a
variety of illnesses than men who are in committed
relationships.
􀆆 FACT #86
Studies show that 85% of men and women who are in
relationships are in them for the wrong reasons.
􀆆 FACT #87
The wrong reasons include becoming a
father before they’re ready and
financial reasons.
􀆆 FACT #88
68% of men in the U.S. would not waste time on a second
date if there was no chemistry on the first. 56% of women
would give it a second chance.
􀆆 FACT #89
When there is chemistry, 97% will call within 72 hours to
arrange a second date.
􀆆 FACT #90
According to It’s Just Lunch, a dating agency for single
working professionals, 51% of men in the U.S. had over six
dates in the past year, while 58% of women had just four.
􀆆 FACT #91
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And it’s a confirmed statistical fact that more than 50% of
marriages end in divorce.
􀆆 FACT #92
From the book, “Positive Illusions: From ‘I do’ to the Seven-
Year Itch” by Amy Dickinson, married couples’ assessment
of the quality of their marriage starts to sink rapidly just
after the “I do” and continues downward through the first
four years.
􀆆 FACT #93
According to DivorceMagazine.com,
total divorces granted in 1997 were
1,163,000 with Nevada holding the
number one state for the most. The
average age of males who divorced for
the first time was 30 years old and for
women, 29 years old.
􀆆 FACT #94
According to a 2001 Gallup survey of 1003 Americans, age
20-29, for the Rutgers University’s National Marriage
Project, 94% want a soul mate for a spouse “first and
foremost.”
􀆆 FACT #95
According to a study performed by the Louisiana State
University, 88% of American men and women between the
ages of 20 and 29 believe they have a soul mate who is
waiting for them.
􀆆 FACT #96
The truth of the matter is, because of the young age, they
will have many soul mates waiting for them.
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􀆆 FACT #97
According to Bride’s Magazine, the average age of a woman
getting married in the United States is 27.
􀆆 FACT #98
Also according to Bride’s Magazine,
66% of altar-bound men and women
live together before getting married.
􀆆 FACT #99
The main thing to remember is that
the best, and longest lasting,
relationship is the one in which your
love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
􀆆 FACT #100
Finding your soul mate requires patience and the ability to
look beyond the fairytale notion of what soul mates are
supposed to be and to look instead to what they can
become.
􀆆 FACT #101
Loving life is the best present anyone can give to oneself.
Finding someone to share that life makes it even richer.
Dear Friends,
By offering this e-book for free, I wanted these words to reach to as
many people as I could to help them understand the real facts and
statistics behind relationships.
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While the statistics may be unsettling, leading you to feel that
relationships just aren’t worth all the emotional stress, the facts will
show you that achieving a harmonious and happy relationship is not
that hard once you are enlightened to the real world of soul mates.
Yes, it does take work, but there’s a saying that goes, “If it feels right;
it’s right.” The same theory can be applied to the soul mate
relationship, also. When you fall in love, you are blinded by the
euphoria and the dancing butterflies and sometimes miss those
warning signals. Of course, later on down the road, the butterflies are
gone and in its place is the nagging feeling that maybe he/she wasn’t
your soul mate after all.
Listen to your inner self. Don’t become another statistic.
If you would like to read more on the soul mate theory, check out my
other books. “How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate” not only
explains the ways to find and keep your soul mate, but offers tips on
what to look for that are invaluable to becoming happy, fulfilled and
whole while my anthology, “Romancing the Soul – True Stories of
Soul Mates from Around the World and Beyond” (Zumaya
Publications 2004) gives real life examples of those who have found
their soul mates through real-life miracles and chance encounters.
Now more than ever, you need to understand what soul mates are
really all about.
Love and Light,
Dorothy

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The Evolution of a Soul Mate Relationship by Kimmie Rose Zapf





Purpose of Your Life
The whole purpose to be on this earth plane is for your soul to evolve and go back to the light from which it came. In order to do this you must experience “Love” and let go of any fears. We are joined in from lifetime to lifetime by “helpers” with whom we refer to as “Soul mates”. There are two types of Soul mates: Companions and Karmic. I will explain those later. First we need to explain your soul’s purpose.

Imagine in your mind: God, The Creator as energy of LOVE… whatever you believe in. Imagine this as a huge Ball of energy/light. We begin our journey as being part of this energy/light. While we are part of this light we are joined by other energies or souls who have the same purpose as we do. That is to come back to the light and to learn about this Divine energy. Our purpose is to remember who we are... we are Love, we have God within us, and we are all one. We make agreements with these other souls before we separate from this light that we will go through certain lessons and learn from them and return to the light ONCE WE HAVE LEARNED. The agreements we make with other souls is that they will help us to achieve this goal. We all have the same goal. The difference is that different souls have different purposes! Twin Flames and Soul mates are very different from one another.

Soul Mates

Anyone already familiar with the concept of a soul mate is probably a bit of a romantic. Many people confuse soul mate relationships with Twin flame. There is a huge difference between the two. The difference between Twin Flames and Companion Soul mates and Karmic Soul mates is that Twin Flames are connected as one Spirit/divided to help one another reconnect. Companion Soul mates and Karmic Soul mates have their own “soul/spirit” and are here to “help” an individual soul with their path. The Path is The Path to Enlightenment. Edgar Cayce’s comment that if one did not have a soul mate -- whether twin soul, companion or karmic -- life would have no point.

A soul mate is a mirror and a mirror tends to reflect perfectly. What we see in another soul represents what we see in ourselves. For ultimately we have the same goal… to be love.

Reincarnation recognizes three kinds of soul mates: Karmic, companion, and twin flames. The three kinds of soul mates allow for a rather impressive range of possibilities when two people are meeting again in this life. All of them serve in the development of the soul. 

Twin Flames

A twin flame is the mirror of who we are; the exact mirror of our body, mind and spirit. A twin flam is the person/soul that shares half of ourself. How I would explain this, is that we come from the light/ God/ The Creator, whatever you believe in. God is light, energy, love and when we come from God we are light. Imagine a light/a flame. We come from the light and then we separate again, this is our twin flame. Ultimately, our twin flame is part of who we are. Twin flames have the same “soul purpose” to work through lessons and return to the light together as one again. 

Often Twin Flames do not work on the physical plane together. Many times one of the twin flames exist on the spiritual plan and the other on the earth plane. Many of the twin flame relationships I see that do exist on this earth plane are ones in which one of the people/souls leaves the earth plane before the other. I have seen twin flames be marriages, significant others, family members and spirit guides. A friend of mine has known her twin flame since she has been a child. When she was a child, she would refer to “Danny” as her friend who helps her to be happy in life. Her family thought of “Danny” as her imaginary friend. Danny has spoken to my friend and helped her through some tough times in her life. But Danny and my friends purpose remains the same. They are working together to return to the Light or The Love state TOGETHER.

Companion Soul Mates

A companion soul mate is one that makes an agreement to help us in the lifetime that helps us to learn lessons. Many are project-oriented, well-mated, often have similar physical features, and who are extremely compatible. But the joining of companion soul mates, unlike the twin flames, does not necessarily signify a permanent relationship. In many cases, once a project is completed, there may be no further need for the relationship and the togetherness vanishes. Companion soul mates are not necessarily marriage partners. While it is true that the soul mate condition may have been established by shared physical experiences over a long period, the relationship is often more than just physical attraction. There exists the capacity to help each other at the mental, as well as, the physical level.
Companion soul mates may include: coworkers, family members, friends and acquaintances we meet for short periods of time that help us along our path. Many “Companion Soul mates” help us to learn lessons while we are working through certain issues in our lifetime. They often “show up” in our life and then move on when they serve their purpose. Ultimately, they are helpers/teachers in our lives as we are to them. They make contracts with us before we come to this earth plane. For example, if one of your lessons in this lifetime is to learn forgiveness a companion soul mate may be a person who does something to you that you might have to forgive or they can be the counselor helping you work through it. 

Karmic Soul Mates
The third form of a soul mate is the karmic soul mate. These are people with whom we come back together with in order to work through issues that we have been through in previous lifetimes and not worked through. Often, the people whom we feel most frustrated with are considered Karmic Soul mates and they are also people whom we have this inner need for and don’t always respond the way we think we might want them to. In knowing these soul mates, the important lesson is that they are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing in order for us to learn the lesson. Once we know the purpose for meeting Karmic soul mates, it makes it easier to understand the intense feelings we have. 
Here is an example of a Karmic Soul mate: Do you have someone in your life who gives you a STRONG feeling inside of a need or perhaps someone whom you feel you have unfinished business with? This is a Karmic soul mate. One important thing to remember about Karmic Soul mates is if you do not find closure or work through the lesson with them in this lifetime, then you will repeat it in another lifetime and/or repeat it during this lifetime. It may even be something like feeling angry that this person lied to you or cheated you in this lifetime. If you did a regression you would take notice that they did the same thing and you did not find peace with them. In this lifetime, it will be part of your lesson to forgive them and let go in order to move forward. Again, the whole purpose to be on this earth plane is for your soul to evolve and go back to the light from which it came. In order to do this you must experience “Love” and let go of any fears. 
YES, COMPANION SOULMATES CAN TURN INTO KARMIC SOULMATES if you don’t allow them to help you two grow.
Questions:
- Is there any reason to have soul mates?
- Is the concept of a soul mate an essential ingredient in reincarnation and/or karma?
- Is the idea just a romantic convenience, or is there something more?
- How do I know if I have met my Companion, Karmic or Twin Flame?

Soul Mate Summary

Twin Flame:
· You will feel a knowing with this soul/person. It is a comfort that no matter where you go or what you do that you will reunite.
· Similar intuitions
· Dreams
· A knowing that you share a higher purpose

Companion Soul mate:
· A teacher, helper
· A person who mirrors you in some way.
· Someone who might have gone through the same situation as you.
· A serendipitous union
· Someone who reminds you of the lessons you are here to learn, like forgiveness.

Karmic Souls:
· A soul which you have shared another lifetime with
· Someone whom you might feel a connection to when you meet. You have a feeling of knowing this person previously.
· Someone who comes back into your life again and again and leaves a so called feeling of a need for closure.
· Intense feelings of love, needing to be together and sometimes fears. 


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The ten rules for being human from “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules.”

We encounter a lot of souls in all our incarnations. All of them have one purpose, which is to help us learn and evolve. However, oftentimes, we experience that learning may not come a smoothly or as easily as we want. We find ourselves in very unsettling, confusing and chaotic relationships and we wonder what we have done to deserve them. We always struggle in the process.
When we do encounter such relationships, we often encounter a karmic soul mate. I often call them “Spiritual classmates.” We have them in our lives because we have left some issues unresolved and perhaps even refuse to learn lessons these relationships bring. And so, we never manage to break the cycle or “graduate’ to the next level.  Until we learn our lessons, we will keep encountering them in our different incarnations.
Karmic soul mates are not confine to romantic relationships but could also present themselves within the family, friends or sometimes, even strangers. Their purpose, oftentimes unbeknownst to them, is to teach us significant lessons that have a great bearing to our long term karmic development.
Let me digress a bit.
I have mentioned in the previous episode, that we also often mistake a karmic soul mate as a twin flame encounter. I really wonder why that happens.
There are many different beliefs about twin flame and soul mates.
But I encourage everyone not just to assume and base the meaning solely on what we read and hear. Try to listen to our spirit, connect with our higher self, then we will be shown the kind of relationship we are encountering at a given moment.
A soul mate can be one who we journey through life together (companion), perhaps growing spiritually side by side or one who would bring chaos to our life but only with the intention of resolving lingering karmic issues (karmic). This kind of soul mate, a karmic soul mate, is often chaotic perhaps because the amount of learning we need to achieve is of great significance compressed within a brief encounter ( lifetime, which is really short.
Having said that, imagine ourselves being given the opportunity to get our most desired dream or goal through completing a task assigned to us. This opportunity comes from a being that can foresee the future, and has the power to improve the lives of those it encounters, on one condition, that we pass the test given.
Let’s think of a grand dream. Let’s go for the winning numbers to the lottery worth 20 million dollars! Imagine all the people we can help with that amount of money!
Now let us talk about the task we need to do in exchange for the winning numbers. Let’s imagine the task of learning a full edition of a terra encyclopaedia, full of wisdom and facts new to us, but those that govern the world we live in and could provide such a mastery of life!  There about 12 volumes, each having 700 pages, that we need to learn  in a month!  After which we will be given a test to check the scope of knowledge we have learned in month’s time.
If we pass the test, then we get the winning numbers, not to mention the secrets to life’s mastery!
I’m sure it’ll push us to the edge giving us terrible headaches, nervousness and even dread from the amount of information to learn, digest and retain. We could break from the pressure of fear of failing the test and missing the great opportunity, thereby failing ourselves, with no one else to blame. And because such opportunity is rare and generous, we need to do it. We must do it if we seriously want to achieve our dream!
Well, a karmic soul mate is similar. We need to learn and retain very significant lessons in such a brief encounter, to prepare us for an even greater challenge or a precious reward that would require a certain degree of spiritual maturity for us to accomplish or appreciate.
Now talking about chaotic karmic relationships, as humans, we would end up loathing these souls who had given us such a hard time and much great heartache. But as spirits, we will always be grateful to have encountered them because they help us grow and moved closer to reuniting with our twin flame and our creator! If we are spiritually enlightened, to a degree, we will have the strength, patience and faith to believe that everything happens for a reason that in the end, we will always come out of a challenge wiser, stronger and more empowered.
We need to realise that when we talk about soul mates, they do not only pertain to the airy-fairy, lovey-dovey stuff, but in fact, it is a strong presence in our lives and we encounter them every day, in every way. If you wonder how, perhaps you should think about your most annoying colleagues at work, maybe your difficult and moody boss, your unbearable mother-in-law, your annoying neighbour or unreasonable customer or client. Quite stereo-typical, isn’t it?  When we find ourselves refusing to leave our comfort zones, pretty soon, we will encounter one.
An encounter with a karmic soul mate is a wakeup call from the Universe, telling us that
ü  we are on the brink of stagnation,
ü  we are being so stubborn and refuse to learn and improve ourselves
ü  or we are soon going to be entrusted with such a precious gift.
Hence some spiritual exercises are required.
But sometimes, the time and the way we do things to correct such karmic cycle is not right. We become stubborn in trying to make things work, the way we want to or think is best.  If this happens in a relationship, then there is a tendency for it to be oppressive and could even bring about co-dependencies.
Co-depencies is a term originally use for people living with alcoholics and drug dependents, with regard to the way they react, behave and respond to their partners’ behaviour and  environment,  brought about  by their partners’ condition .
But now, its definition has changed into a more expansive one. The most obvious symptoms of a co-dependent relationship are the presence of oppression, any form of abuse, the obsession and compulsion to stay in the very unhealthy relationship and environment, hoping to make it right.
A co-dependent relationship also happens when only one of the partners is so keen on fixing the problem. They do everything in their power to make things right at the expense of their own well-being. They think that if they keep trying, they can save, heal, or be able to show the other the way to deliverance.  For the person who keeps giving, he or she is misguided by his or her desire to take on the role of the saviour or nurturer. He or she unfortunately puts more importance on this false hope, the relationship and the other person, than his or her own well-being.
Sometimes when we come across such a relationship, we need to acknowledge that the lesson we need to learn,  is actually not mending it or making it work, but of letting it go.
By being subjected to constant pain and anguish, oppression and heartache, we are really not learning the right lessons. Remaining in such a continuous dysfunctional state can actually harm and destroy our spirit. Which means, it would take us more time to correct the wrong we have done to ourselves,  through our own stubbornness and neglect.
Think about it.
And I shall leave you with these quotes to ponder.
The consequences of our actions take hold of us quite indifferent to our claim that meanwhile we have “improved”. – Friedrich Nietzsche
The Ten Rules for Being Human
1. You will receive a body.
2.  You will be presented with lessons.
3.  There are no mistakes, only lessons.
4.  Lessons are repeated until learned.
5.  Learning does not end.
6.  “There” is no better than “here”.
7.  Others are only mirrors of you.
8.  What you make of your life is up to you.
9.  All the answers lie inside of you.
10.  You will forget all of this at birth.
From the book “If Life is a Game, These are the Rules.” (Written by Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D., the “rules” have also appeared in “Chicken Soup for the Soul” by Jack Canfield.)

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More on soulmates

Soulmates

by Theresa

Many people have been searching for their one true soulmate without realizing we have lots of them. We have various types of soulmates such as karmic soulmates, primary soulmates, false twins, and a twin soul. We also have soul families which some people call soul clusters or soul groups. I will be discussing the various types of soulmates in this article.
First we come to karmic soulmates with whom you would think we would have a lovely time given the term " karmic." It sounds as though we have been with these people a very long time. Yes, some of us older souls have been with our karmic soulmates for quite some time. Karmic soulmates will either strongly attract or repel each other, because they have issues to work out. A karmic soulmate can be anybody such as a parent, co-worker, boss, or even a lover. You may be so strongly attracted to someone and don't know why. You think you are deeply in love, and this person may feel the same way about you. But the two of you discover you really don't get along at all. Your communication is off, and you bicker quite a bit. One or the both of you may hurt each other a lot and may continue to do so. Despite all this, you find it just about impossible to leave this person. The attraction is just too strong no matter what the two of you are doing to each other. This strange attraction will be alive until one or the both of you is aware you have deeply rooted issues from past lives. It will remain with you until one or the both of you let go and unconditionally love. Once you have learned your lessons from each other, you may decide to go on your way. Many times once we have learned our lessons from these people, they will no longer be part of our lives. We can wish them love and happiness from a distance. I mentioned some karmic soulmates repel us. They just get on our nerves no matter what they do. And some of them are downright cruel to us. You may find yourself in a position in which you cannot just easily avoid a karmic soulmate. My mother, for instance, is one of my karmic soulmates. She partially abandoned me and my brother when I was eight-years-old. She hurt me and the family to the point of making me very sick with anger and resentment. My mother and I were true karmic soulmates. I put it in the past tense, because I was able to let go and wish her love and happinesss from a distance. My soul has learned its lessons from her. I know this is so hard to do when you are in the midst of a similar relationship. Do whatever you can to remove yourself from the situation so you can begin to heal. Let yourself feel the anger, because you do not heal by not letting yourself feel these emotions. Vent them out in a positive way by writing how you feel or yelling and screaming in your home when nobody is there. Release it in such forms as sport and dance. Dance a dance of passion, whack that ball as hard as you can, or run as fast as you can. Get that anger out so you can go on to letting go.
Now that we have left our karmic soulmates we come to our primary soulmates. These are the people with whom we feel very comfortable and with good reason. We can relax with these people and not be afraid of being judged. It just feels so good to be around them. Just like karmic soulmates, a primary soulmate can be anybody. Actually, this is true for all classifications of soulmates. Primary soulmates are part of our soul family. When our souls are created, they become part of a soul family. Many souls are created at the same time. Not all souls will go to the same family just as not all humans born belong to the same Earthly family. You know the term " as above so below. " Well, soul families have soul elders to look out for them and guide them just as Earthly children have families to do that for them. Elder primary soulmates will be there to support and teach the new souls. If an elder primary soulmate has had any incarnations on Earth, that soulmate can be a guide from the Other Side to one who incarnates on Earth. You will probably find elder primary soulmates in your life in the form of those people who are very wise. Often, you will find yourself asking these people for advice, because they just seem to have the right answers for you. You will often find these elder primary soulmates may be chronologically younger than you, but so wise beyond their years. Naturally, there are elder primary soulmates of all ages. Just think about the wise elderly people you know or a friend who has given you lots of great advice. Of course, not all primary soulmates fit this category. There are those primary soulmates with whom you just love to be around. They feel so much like family. And they are. Sad to say, primary soulmates may not always stay in our lives. Circumstances may call one or the both of you away, because both of you need to go on your own to learn separate lessons.
There may be a person to whom you feel especially close and think is your twin soul. Although this person is most likely a close primary soulmate, he/she is not your twin soul. This person is known as a false twin which does not mean he/she deceives you. It just means he/she is not your real twin. The false twin has all the attributes of being part of your soul family, because he/she is just that. Think of this person as being a close and treasured soul family member.
Many people search very hard for what they think is a soulmate and is rather a twin soul. And there are people who know the basic meaning of twin soul so search for that one special person. And most likely the search will come to no avail, because twin soul meetings usually happen naturally. It should be kept in mind that twin souls do not always incarnate into the same life time, and even when they do they may not meet each other. Often, twin souls come into each othes lives for a period of time then leave. They are to learn lessons separately then on the Other Side they come together to share the knowledge they have gained. Very often the twin souls may not be able to have an intimate relationship due to many factors such as a twin soul being an Earthly family member or being part of a committed relationship. You and your twin soul can have any kind of Earthly relationship including, for example, parent, sibling, dear close friend, spouse, lover, aunt, uncle, aunt, cousin and so on. Here is something to keep in mind.You have many soulmates, but you have only one twin soul. It is also important to remember, as shown above, not all twin souls are romantically linked. I have seen so many people make this mistake. They are convinced that the one with whom they are infatuated is the twin soul, and they wonder why that person has no interest in them. Infatuation does not a twin soul make. I say all this, because I have seen these people so wrought with sadness and frustration. Now having said all that, there are wonderfully romantic twin soul relationships. These relationships are not just about romantic love; they are also about unconditional love. These relationships are the best of all possible worlds, because in them you have someone with whom you can be your true self and be part of a romantic relationship. Speaking about romantic involvement, very often twin souls will be in a committed relationship before meeting each other. It is never wise to leave someone for the twin soul, because it will cause all sorts of problems for the soul. It will be even harder for the both of you to come together in a future life time. Of course, it is very understandable for you to leave a very unhappy relationship. It should be noted that twin souls are the opposite gender due to the yin and yang of the twin soul bond. Each brings either a male or female energy. This factor is under a lot of controversy. I have often come across same-sex couples who insist they are twin souls. It is very likely they are close primary soulmates, but they are not twin souls. And that is just fine. What is important in any relationship is love and respect. Now what about people such as hermaphodites or transexuals? In the case of hermaphodites, the twin soul is either another hermaphodite or has not incarnated to Earth in this life time. It is most likely the later case. Whether or not two transexuals are twin souls depends upn the circumstances. When someone is truly born into the wrong body that person is the gender he/she was meant to be. When that is the case for both transexuals, it may be a twin soul relationship given the factors I will mention below.
Most often twin souls will recognize each other when they first meet. It may be a soul recognition in that the two people do not know how they know each other. The twin soul may just have that very familiar look so that you are wondering how you know this person. Yes, many people you meet will have a familiarity about them, but it is even stronger with twin souls. On the other hand, many twin souls recognize each other as such from the very beginning. And there are times one or both twin souls physically ignore the soul recognition. It may be that one or both of them do not even believe in twin souls. Sometimes it just takes time for the twin souls to know who they are. Twin souls may be very much alike or opposites, mirror images of each other. Twin souls who are opposites will mirror each other in looks such as one being blonde and the other one having darker looks. They may very well have opposite views on most things and follow different spiritual paths. Twin souls who are opposites will most likely complement each other. Even when they are not part of the same Earthly family, twin souls who are alike may look like each other to the point of people thinking they are brother and sister. They most likely will think the same way about a lot of things such as music, literature, films, and so on. They will especially be close in their spiritual views. Whether the twin souls are alike or opposites, they will undergo many synchronocities in their lives. There is very often telepathic communication between them which continues even when one of them has passed to the Other Side while the other one remains on this side. The twin soul bond is a very special one, one which cannot be broken by any means. Some people think you can do a cord cutting to sever the bond. You cannot do this! Twin souls have a unique spiritually eternal bond. A bond which should be honored by each soul.

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Soulmates vs karmic connections



In my experience of doing thousands of readings for people and lots and lots of past life regressions I have found that there are soul-mates and there are karmic connections. Both types have strong emotional, spiritual pulls and magnetisms and can be easily mistaken one for another. Let’s clarify the differences. But first indulge me in my explanation of blue printing, to better understand how this system seems to work, and how it relates to one person being more attracted than another.
Blue Printing is the general guidelines you design for the life you are about to enter into. Very much like a house blue print, it shows the structure of the intent of the sojourn. This contains things like the purpose/mission you have chosen to cultivate, significant challenges and learning opportunities, the environment, culture, and parents to best facilitate your sojourn, as well as a your significant role players, and soul mates.
Once you make it to earth though, it is important to recognize free will rules. In other words the blue print displays the original idea of structure, but once you’re here on earth you can knock down walls or decorate how ever you choose. Because of the free will factor you usually schedule in a few soul mates in hopes that one or two will work out to be actual long term partnerships.
Soul Mates (in my version of that term) are souls that before you came into body you have a heightened connection with and choose to meet up with for meaning and purpose during your sojourn on earth, and are in hopes of developing a lasting meaningful, mutually beneficial relationship. They seem to be special souls you have a real deep affinity and bond with. (These are not to be confused with Twin flames, which is another post.)
In my experience souls do keep these soul preferences outside of human form. Unfortunately, sometimes the free will factor, the ego factor, and so much of the messiness of earth living, can cloud either party from really recognizing the true potential of the alliance possible.
Karmic Connections are souls that you have unfinished business with, and have also scheduled into your blue print, with hopes of coming full circle with your desired outcome of the intended learning experience. In other words they are characters in your play to allow you the opportunity to learn, grow and expand from. Because their original design is to stretch you….they are often the most troubling and struggle ridden relationships.
Karmic Connections have a strong magnetism, usually in the beginning of the relationship. The strong pull is each souls “calling” (like a mating dance) to fulfill the agreements made in blue printing. It is like ringing a loud dinner bell, which has to be strong, or it would be easy for either party to just keep walking (which of course does happen some times as per free will).
Karmic Connections usually account for why some times one person feels much stronger about the other, and the feeling isn’t mutual. Usually the one with the stronger feelings is the one with the biggest learning lesson to gain. These souls may show up in our lives to play the roles of lovers, friends, bosses etc., but you know them by how strongly you felt about them.
You have quite deliberately chosen the souls in your blue printing, and if some how because of free will they fail to execute their role, the universe in its infinite possibilities will find an understudy, and make sure they show up in your reality. As for soul mates, even if they all go down hill there is still hope, for the universe will find a way to send one through that is special to you and decided to help you out in a pinch,, or it will send your way some one perfectly matched to build a new deep connection to that will forever last as a new soul mate.

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Soul Mate & Twin Souls

Legend

Ancient Cultures:
Separation of the sexes - Twin Soul Aspects - Dual'sLike the biblical story virtually all the ancient myths reference creation as involving the split of polarities from an original state of unity. The Chinese story of P`an-Ku, separating the unity of yin and yang principles. The Egyptian Atum myth where the air God Shu separates Geb and Nut from their initial love embrace. The Sumerian story of creation and the uncoupling of the god Anu and goddess Ki from their commingled state. The Akaddian story of Marduck splitting the goddess Tiamat. The New Zealand Maori story of creation and separation of Rangi and Papa. (Ranginui and Papatuanuku.) Aristophanes in the Symposium references how the Greek God Zeus cut the souls of humankind in half. "Man's original body having been cut in two, each half yearned for the half that had been severed.....Love is simply the name of for the desire and pursuit of the whole. Plato in the Symposium: "The original human nature was not as they are now, but originally three in number; there was man, woman, and the union of the two." (Third Gender)
Soulmate Definitions:
  • Soul lovers: someone you love, and would do anything for, and someone who loves you, and would do anything for you. And in that love, nothing is required for either person, because everything is already given.
  • Soul sister/brother: someone belonging in the same soul group as you and therefore having an unusually strong bond and likeness to you. soulmate
  • Spiritual and religious: concepts of reincarnation and karma. Soulmates have spent many previous lifetimes together. soulmate
  • Karmic soulmate: someone who has a special mission or influence on one's life.
  • Companion soulmate: People with whom one has made a connection. soulmate
  • Balance partners and messengers: The people you meet along the way who help you create balance in your life. soulmate
  • Twin flame soulmate: A popular romantic belief that there is only one true soulmate.
  • Divine complement: A new colloquialism for a 'match made in heaven', a twin soul, who holds inborn potentials that match and complement one's own and who is linked eternally through a signature in the heart at the dimension of the spirit.
Jewish: Bashert
Bashert (Yiddish: באַשערט), is a Yiddish word that means "destiny". It is often used in the context of one's divinely foreordained spouse or soulmate, who is called "basherte" (female) or "basherter" (male). It can also be used to express the seeming fate or destiny of an auspicious or important event, friendship, or happening.

In modern usage, Jewish singles will say that they are looking for their bashert, meaning they are looking for that person who will complement them perfectly, and whom they will complement perfectly. Since it considered to have been foreordained by God whom one will marry, one's spouse is considered to be one's bashert by definition, independent of whether the couple's marital life works out well or not.
Bereshit Rabbah 8:1
Rabbi Shmuel Bar Nachman“At the time that the Holy One, blessed be the One, created the first adam, He created him double-faced and [then] split him, and made for him two backs – a back here and a back there.” they asked him: “But isn’t it written: ‘and He took one of his ribs [tzelah]’?” He said to them: “[This actually means] one of his sides…as we understand it, ‘and one of the sides [tzelah] of the tabernacle.’” [Exodus 26:2] Midrash Rabbah Genesis Volume I
Soul Friend ~ Amna Chara
Anam Chara is a Gaelic word meaning soul-friend. Anam - soul, Chara- friend. The concept derives from an ancient Celtic tradition and is still a popular practice in many spiritual traditions in Ireland today. The anam chara acted as mentor, teacher, companion and spiritual guide. The emphasis was on spiritual companionship and direction as opposed to today's romantic notion of the 'soul-mate'. The relationship was much deeper and often lasted a lifetime. soulmate

The Celts believed the anam chara was joined in an ancient and eternal bond with his/her friend of the soul and this bond could not be broken, even if the friend moved away and there was a great physical distance between them. The Celtic understanding did not set limits of time and space on the soul nor was there any split between the sacred and the mundane. All aspects of life were manifestations of soul. soulmate

Many ancient Celtic philosophies or perspectives passed into the Irish Christian Celtic tradition and in spite of many attempts in the past to 'Romanize' Irish Christianity, these remnants remain. There has been a surge in interest and an urge to reclaim the wisdom of our Celtic spirituality. soulmate

However, the danger lies in approaching the tradition as another fashionable and exotic spiritual programme. The anam chara reminds us that spirituality or soul work demands commitment and the willingness to embrace the light and the darkness of our life's journey and allow it to be. soulmate
"In everyone's life there is great need for an anam chara, a soul friend. In this love you are understood as you are without mask or pretension. The superficial and functional lies and half-truths of acquaintance fall away. You can be as you truly are .... The anam chara is God's gift..." John O' Donohue
True Stories
Only Love is Real: A story of soulmates Reunited A psychiatrist traces how he helped two of his patients discover that they have been lovers over the centuries.
Eyes of an AngelEyes of an Angel is an amazing, true account of Soul Travel, Angels, Spirit Guides, Soul Mates, and the Reality of Love. Written in a compelling, easy to read style, it conveys a unique and fascinating story.
Science of Soulmates:
The meaning of existence, the true nature of soulmates, reincarnation, auras, transcendental consciousness and other higher realities are uncovered.
The Science of Soulmates
New Age Concept
New AgeThere is a prevalent concept in some segments of the New Age movement that some souls are literally made and/or fated to be the mates of each other, or to play certain other important roles in each others' lives. These souls are thought to have created something in a past life and they have chosen this lifetime to help each other "heal." Following this concept, one can have many soulmates. For example: One could see another person they have never met in this lifetime and instantly hate or love them because of previous interaction(s) with the other in one or more previous lifetimes. The most popular use of this concept is in applying it to those who were loved intimately in other lifetimes which were then found in this one. Also, being conscious of the "soulmate connection" is not necessary, according to this idea. 
Reincarnation / Soul Mates
The theory and beliefs of reincarnation teach that people tend to be reborn with the same souls, again and again. It has become almost a cliche - a common pickup line, if you will - the notion of "Haven't we met before - perhaps in another life?" But it isn't just a line. Often, we are attracted to souls that we recognize, even though we rarely remember from where . "Love at first sight" has been described as reincarnated mates finding each other once more. Siblings, parents and children are usually groups that we have interacted and shared our lives with in past existences. Reincarnation tosses the theory of random selection and chance reproduction out of the window. Instead, it teaches that children are born to specific parents for a reason - karma and familiarity draw them together yet again.

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Why You Shouldn't Believe in Soul Mates

Do you believe in soul mates? Do you hold the idea that there is one person (or just a few), who is uniquely compatible with you? Do you feel that the right relationship should "just work out", with both of you loving each other easily as you are?
If so, you are definitely not alone. In fact, according to a January 2011 Marist poll, 73% of Americans believe that they are destined to find their one, true, soul mate. The percentage is a bit higher for men (74%) than women (71%). The notion is also higher among younger individuals, with 79% of those under 45 believing in soul mates (as opposed to 69% of those over 45).
Clearly, the belief in soul mates is pervasive. The majority of people hold tight to the idea of romantic destiny. The question remains, however, whether the belief ends up working out. Do people who look for a soul mate find them? Do soul mates live "happily ever after" more often?
Fortunately, research has the answer...

Research on Soul Mates and Belief in Romantic Destiny

Research by Knee (1998) evaluated the impact of a belief in "romantic destiny" (i.e. soul mates) on the quality of actual relationships. More particularly, he compared relationships of people who believed in soul-mates (e.g. a belief that people are meant for each other or not), with those of people who believed in "relationship growth" (e.g. a belief that relationships are developed with work over time). Results of his evaluation indicated that:
People who believe in romantic destiny (soul mates) primarily look for positive emotional reactions and initial compatibility with a partner. They believe people either "click" and are meant to be, or they don't and should move on. As a result, those beliefs tend drive soul mate searchers to be intensely passionate and satisfied with partners at first, particularly while things are compatible. However, when problems inevitably arise, believers in soul mates often don't cope well and leave the relationship instead. In other words, a belief that soul mates should be ideally compatible motivates individuals to just give up when a relationship isn't perfect. They simply look elsewhere for their "true" match. As a result, their relationships tend to be intense but short, often with a higher number of quick romances and one-night stands.
People who believe in romantic growth (cultivation) primarily look for someone who will work and grow with them, resolving conflicts as they arise. They believe that relationships can evolve with hard work and compromise, even in difficult situations. As a result, they tend to be less passionate and satisfied with partners at first. A romantic growth individual doesn't have the same intense, euphoric response to partner connections. However, when problems arise, they are motivated to solve them and stay committed to their partner. As a result, their relationships tend to be longer and more satisfying over time. Rather than rejecting a partner for minor disagreements, they work together, evolve, and grow a satisfying relationship.
Subsequent research supports these differences. Particularly, those who believe in soul mates tend to be less committed to a partner, particularly when there are relationship difficulties (Knee, Patrick, Vietor, & Neighbors, 2004). Also, soul mate believers are often more anxious in relationships and less likely to forgive romantic partners (Finkel, Burnette, & Scissors,2007). Overall, when the going gets tough with a partner, or requires work, soul mates tend to quit and look for the next "perfect" match.

Soul Mates and Love Life Experiences

Given the research, if an individual wants intensely-passionate, short-term flings, then belief in soul mates will serve them well. Finding those initial commonalities and connections will feel like magic. It will be an excellent emotional high, at least while the illusion of perfection lasts.
In all relationships, however, disagreement, conflict, and incompatibility will arise. Ultimately, no one is perfect - or a perfect fit for a partner. It takes work, growth, and change to keep a relationship going and satisfying over time. When that happens, soul mate believers often become upset, disillusioned, and uncommitted.
Therefore, if an individual finds they are repeatedly falling in love with the "perfect" partner, only to be disappointed and dumping them soon after, their belief in soul mates may be to blame. It may cause them to give up when things are not perfect (but may be still good or great). It may motivate them to not compromise, work, or change, when others don't love them completely for being exactly as they are. Ultimately, it may continually drive them to believe that life would be more satisfying with someone else and endlessly look for a more compatible partner, rather than working to fit with, and be satisfied by, a very good one.
In the end, it is a bit of a cruel joke. A belief in soul mates may prevent individuals from finding the very relationships they think they are destined to have!

Conclusion

Overall, the message is clear, looking for perfect compatibility and a soul mate kills motivation to work at successful relationships with good partners. In the long run, adopting a belief in romantic growth and cultivation is much more rewarding, especially for those interested in long-term relationships. However, compared to soul mates, a belief in growth does take more work, effort, and a desire to change. So, to truly have a satisfying relationship, an individual must not only give up the search for a "perfect" partner, but also be willing to admit they are not always "perfect just as they are" as well. Only then can two people work together, grow, evolve, and meet each other's needs in the long run.

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Myths about Soul Mates by Scott Stanley

(Editor's note: This article was adapted from Scott Stanley's book, The Power of Commitment: A Guide to Active, Lifelong Love. For the complete text and more advice on forming matches that will go the distance, please consult his book.)
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Meet Jack. He's a 27-year-old college grad doing well in his career. Jack believes you need to be financially secure and established in your career before you marry, but since he's getting to that point he's started to think about settling down.
Jack has issues, though. His parents divorced when he was 7. Both remarried unhappily, his mother once and his father twice. So he's never seen "happily ever after" in any of the marriages that have been closest to him. Still he has the deep desire for the full promise of a great marriage.
Because he's a product of the current culture, he has the desire to find his soul mate if he's ever going to marry. In fact, his insecurities about marriage may have pushed him toward a desire for the fullest expression of something I call soul-mate-ism.
Jack initially didn't believe in the whole soul mate thing, but he's grown to, or rather, the belief has grown on him. The idea is comforting because he wants the most loving and secure relationship possible — something everyone wants — and he feels like he needs the perfect soul mate in order to have that happen.
Jack's not alone.
Belief in a soul mate is pervasive. It is an ancient idea — one I find as attractive as the next person for what it suggests about the deepest desires of the heart — to be naked and unashamed. But is it a wise way to think?
In 2001, the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University, headed by social historian Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and sociologist David Popenoe, commissioned a national survey of 1,003 people ages 20 to 29 years old, 61 percent of whom had never married. In their survey, Popenoe and Whitehead asked these young adults all sorts of questions about their views on marriage and divorce. What they found will likely not surprise you, but the implications of their findings are momentous for marriage:
  • An overwhelming majority (94 percent) of never-married singles agree that 'when you marry you want your spouse to be your soul mate, first and foremost.'
  • Less than half (42 percent) of single young adults believe that it is important to find a spouse who shares your religion. (I include this second finding simply to show that most people's desire for a soul mate has little to do with a desire to have someone share their core beliefs and spiritual practices.)
So what is a soul mate, and why do people assume that this is the greatest thing to be desired and achieved in marriage?
Great Expectation or Dangerous Idea?
I searched the Internet for a definition of soul mate, finding very few clear definitions yet plenty of writings describing what people are thinking about when they use the term. The following are some of the sentiments I found in my search.
  • Someone who completes you.
  • Someone who accepts you no matter what.
  • Someone who has the unique capacity to love you more fully than anyone else on the planet.
  • Someone for whom you would not have to make major compromises.
  • Someone with whom you have a deep connection that is not based on mere infatuation.
  • Someone who is your greatest friend.
  • Someone you may not spend the rest of your life with.
  • You may, in fact, have several soul mates. There is not just one.
  • Soul mates have two minds, hearts and souls that operate as one.
  • Someone you quickly know is the one.
As you can see, some people have soul mate concepts that are close to what just about anyone would say is a truly great marriage — and one reasonable to desire and build. Others describe (and probably seek) a level of sublime connection and completion that seems virtually impossible to achieve. In addition, some writers say that there is not just one perfect soul mate for you while others clearly imply that there is — one perfect person who it's all-important for you to find.
One thing is clear. It's very reasonable to search for a mate who will join you in a healthy and happy marriage that will embody and portray lasting love — someone who will touch your soul. It is very reasonable to want a mate to be your best friend, your confidant and someone who shares a deep and meaningful vision with you of your future together. I think it is not unreasonable to want and expect those things.
But not all soul mate beliefs are created equal. The danger is that many people hold to their desire for a soul mate who does not exist, and believe all the most unrealistic and dangerous things that are attached to the term. It's what I call soul-mate-ism:
The belief that you will find in a mate the one unique person on the planet who understands your deepest desires and fears, accepts all of who you are unconditionally and who becomes joined to you, making one complete whole in mind, body and soul. The power of this type of relationship is so great that you will know fully and rapidly when you find "the one." Further, if you have not married "the one," you should move on.
Everyone needs to feel — and be — emotionally safe in marriage — safe in the way you relate to your mate now and safe in the sense that you can count on a future together. The danger lies in expecting an unrealistic level of sublime and safe connection. For example, to alleviate his insecurities about attachment, Jack needs a level of acceptance that is not possible. He needs to be fully loved, without threat of disapproval.1
Worse, he thinks there is only one right person who can fulfill his idea of love. That's a bit scary — it implies you had better find just the right one. I actually found a soul mate calculator on the Web that uses population statistics to tell you how many people you'd have to search among to find your soul mate — which means you could make many more mistakes than correct choices, especially if you believe there is only one right choice. What would happen if you made the wrong choice?
Let's see what happens when someone like Jack, who's acting on soul-mate-ism, falls in love.
A Fine Romance
One fine January, Jack attended a Super Bowl party put on by his long-time friend Fred. At the party, Jack met Sandy, and the attraction was immediate. Within two days, Jack was convinced that Sandy was the one — his belief in soul-mate-ism made him think he'd know right away. There were warning signs he should have noticed, but his strong attraction kept him from paying any serious attention to them. He thought it felt right. (Just for your information, I have nothing at all against falling in love and having it feel right.) Sandy thought so, too.
Jack and Sandy are very typical. They are young and in love, and they believe what most of the people around them believe, including that finding someone who shares your faith is less central than finding "the one," whether or not that person shares your faith or your worldview. The irony of most people's notion of a soul mate is that the person doesn't have to share his or her partner's most core philosophical and religious beliefs. So, while not sharing core beliefs should be a substantial warning sign of possible problems to come, it's deemed much less important, as are many other things, such as compatible views on money management and child rearing.
Many partners with different faith backgrounds have developed outstandingly good marriages by any secular definition. But having different faiths is a risk, and for many couples the difference deprives them of one of the more powerful ways to meet deep in the soul.
In the area of faith, Jack's family background was Presbyterian and Sandy's was Baptist. As they spent time together and fell in love, that difference did not signify much to them because neither practiced their faith actively. They just thought about their faith in each other. And within two months they were seeing each other constantly. A few months after that, they decided to marry, and they did, with friends and family looking on.
Jack and Sandy did pretty well together for several years. In fact, they remained close and positive in their sense of a future together. Then they had a child, a girl they named Millie, after Sandy's mother. While Millie brought them great joy and fulfillment, she also brought challenges, as children do in all marriages. Neither Sandy nor Jack had anticipated how their difference in faith would lead to so many conflicts over Millie, including how to baptize her.
But conflicts over Millie were just the beginning. Jack and Sandy also began to have conflicts about work and careers. Sandy became far more conflicted over her career once Millie arrived. She wanted to keep progressing, but she also wanted to be home taking care of Millie. It became harder and harder for Sandy to leave Millie at day care each morning. And it wasn't much better on the days (which were nearly as many) when Jack was the one to drop Millie off.
Sandy began to wonder out loud about staying home and being a full-time mom until Millie was in first grade. While she had not thought she would be very affected by her situation, Sandy's mother and grandmother had stayed at home to raise their children, at least in the early years. Now, though it surprised her, she thought she wanted to do that, too.
Jack, however, was completely closed to that path. In fact, he felt somewhat betrayed that Sandy was even considering it because he had been sure she was as committed as he had always been to building wealth — being financially secure was important to his total need for security.
So a few years into their marriage, Jack and Sandy found themselves at a crossroads that is not uncommon. Nor is it particularly dangerous or threatening to a marriage. Rather, it's one of those times when married couples have to confront important choices about what they want, where they want to head and the wisest path for them to walk on. But what made the period dangerous for Jack and Sandy was their soul-mate-ism, Jack's in particular. If Jack could feel unsafe and fear rejection or criticism in his relationship with Sandy, on any substantial level, then maybe she really was not his true soul mate.
Maybe I chose the wrong person, he started to think.
Commitment: The Antidote to the Dangers of Soul-Mate-Ism
Soul-mate-ism conveys an expectation of heavenly connection that makes earthbound relationships more difficult. As with any other unrealistic expectation, it can make you more disappointed than is warranted by the normal ups and downs of married life. It's not that I don't believe that we should desire and seek the deepest and most meaningful connections in our marriages. Wanting that level of connection is the main reason I have faith that marriage will not disappear as an institution. It is the place where people are most likely to experience the level of security and safety that will satisfy the longings of their hearts.
However, there is a difference between a recognition of the deepest desires of the heart, in the pristine state of the Garden of Eden, and what is realistic to expect to receive and give when married to another imperfect human being. The desire for perfection is within you and can motivate you to do greater things in your marriage, but the reality cannot come up to the level of the expectation you may have if you suffer from soul-mate-ism. So, I encourage you to think well about what you expect so that you will not be unhappy with your marriage because of impossible expectations about being perfectly loved by another.
The depth of the desire we all have to be fully and deeply accepted and connected — implied in the words naked and unashamed — is within the context of full commitment. It is deep commitment between two partners for life in marriage that makes it possible to have a profound connection.
While I believe that what you do after you marry is the most crucial factor in being successful in life, I and other marriage researchers also believe that making a wise, careful, unrushed choice up front is the very best way to begin a life with another.
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NOTES
  1. Research suggests that people who are insecure about attachments are more prone to make errors in their relationships. Essentially, the neediness is so great that it clouds otherwise good judgment, such as about whom to marry in the first place. These ideas are consistent with, though the point is somewhat different from, the study by Davila and Bradbury that shows how the insecurity leads to different decisions than others might make in the same circumstances (note that I am pointing out how their research shows attachment issues affect relationships but not trying to undermine the importance of marital commitment in terms of pointing to this specific finding). Davila, J., & Bradbury, T. N. (2001). "Attachment insecurity and the distinction between unhappy spouses who do and do not divorce." Journal of Family Psychology, 15, 371–393.
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